You're Aloud To Leave - By Raina Naim

You’re allowed to leave any story you don’t find yourself in. You’re allowed to leave any story you don’t love yourself in.
You’re allowed to leave a city that has dimmed your light instead of making you shine brighter, you’re allowed to pack all your bags and start over somewhere else and you’re allowed to redefine the meaning of your life.
You’re allowed to quit the job you hate even if the world tells you not to and you’re allowed to search for something that makes you look forward to tomorrow and to the rest of your life.
You’re allowed to leave someone you love if they’re treating you poorly, you’re allowed to put yourself first if you’re settling and you’re allowed to walk away when you’ve tried over and over again but nothing has changed.
You’re allowed to let toxic friends go, you’re allowed to surround yourself with love, and people who encourage and nurture you. You’re allowed to pick the kind of energy you need in your life.
You’re allowed to forgive yourself for your biggest and smallest mistakes and you’re allowed to be kind to yourself, you’re allowed to look in the mirror and actually like the person you see.

You’re allowed to set yourself free from your own expectations.

We sometimes look at leaving as a bad thing or associate it with giving up or quitting, but sometimes leaving is the best thing you can do for yourself.
Leaving allows you to change directions, to start over, to rediscover yourself and the world. Leaving sometimes saves you from staying stuck in the wrong place with the wrong people.
Leaving opens a new door for change, growth, opportunities and redemption.
You always have the choice to leave until you find where you belong and what makes you happy.

You’re even allowed to leave the old you behind and reinvent yourself.


Date The Girl Who Has Her Shit Together - Kirsten Corley

Date the girl who knows where she’s going.
And wants to take you with her.
Date the girl who has dreams a little too big.
And the belief that she can achieve it.
Date the girl who is honest even if it makes her look bad.
Who is vulnerable and isn’t afraid of it.
Who is unapologetically authentic.
Date the girl who doesn’t need you to take care of her.
The girl who works her ass off but also knows when and how to have a good time.
Date the girl you don’t want to hurt.
The one you hate disappointing.
The one you’d do anything for if you could.
Date the girl who makes you forget about every other one.
Date the girl you’d be proud to bring home to your parents.
The one who believes in you even if you don’t see yourself that way.
Date the girl who makes you smile every time she walks into a room.
And makes you feel like it’s just the two of you there.
Date the girl who makes you laugh.
But can also laugh at herself.
Date the girl who is independent.
But chooses you anyway because she wants you, not needs you.
Date the girl you can picture having a future with.
The one who is different and isn’t afraid to be herself.
The girl who might not be your type.
Date the girl who is nice.
The girl who challenges you.
The one who makes you see things in a different light.
Date the girl who is willing to make sacrifices to be with you.
And would do anything to make it work.
Date the girl who accepts your flaws.
But more than that, doesn’t see any to begin with.
Date the girl who makes you want to take risks in life.
The one who will tell you to go somewhere or do something.
The one who will hold your hand and give you that push if you need it.
Date the girl you can see yourself falling in love with.
Even if you aren’t ready.
Take a chance on her.
Date the girl who accepts your past.
Because she believes in a future together.

But most of all date the girl who is going to make you a better man


I am a woman - not your stereotype (Ashley Petallano)

I am a woman and there are some things you should know about me. Everyone has a right to speak their mind; here is mine and I hope it speaks to all.

I am a woman, not just a pretty face.
 Do not compare me to the beauty standards of this world. Some will be prettier than me. But that doesn’t give you the right to get me down because of my looks. There’s more to me than the size of my waistline or the contour of my cheeks.
Please don’t tell me I have to be pretty to get what I want. True, some women achieve more, but not because they’re more beautiful or sexier. Skills and smarts also play their parts.

I am a woman, not an emotional wreck.
 Sure, you do not understand me at times, but that doesn’t mean I’m always emotionally unstable. Do not judge me by my hormones; don’t ask me if I’m on my period whenever I feel down. That’s just plain rude.
Like you, I have my ups and downs. Admittedly, my body has partly something to do with it—I do go crazy because of the hormones. But don’t judge me because of it; don’t say “Ah, she’s so hormonal!” Instead, try to understand.
I’m not always emotionally strong, but neither am I often emotionally weak. Do not label me as too emotional just because you caught me crying.
I am a woman; I am not your toy. Do not take advantage of my emotions. When I choose to love you, know what I feel is genuine; therefore, I don’t deserve to be toyed with. You wouldn’t want that either, right?
My feelings were made to be treasured, not to be played. I’m not some Barbie or G.I. Joe that you take interest in today and leave whenever you feel like it. If you’re not going to take me seriously, don’t even bother.

I am a woman, not your “weaker sex.”
 Just because you are physically stronger, doesn’t mean I can’t do the things you can. I am more capable than you think. I don’t always play the damsel in distress card; in some occasions, I will save myself. Do not belittle me just because you think I am weak. In terms of skills and knowledge, I can do it too.
I am a woman, not your competition. For some reason, we have that innate competitive nature that gets the best of us. She has the better shade of lipstick, he’s smarter, she’s too catty for her own good, or he makes more money—the arguments are all the same. As a result, we claw each other to get to the top.
I am not your enemy; instead, I am your partner. If you keep looking at me as the competition, I will never be your friend. Everyone’s got their pros and cons; rather than tear me down, let’s build each other up.

I am a woman and I deserve respect
—we all do. There’s nothing wrong with praising a girl for her looks, but when you do so out of lust, I’d rather not hear your whistles or suggestive comments. You ask me, “Hey darling, why don’t you give us a smile, huh?” How can I smile when you undress me with your eyes?
I am responsible for what I wear, but still, you are responsible for your eyes. Please keep your hands from going anywhere without my consent. If your sister or your mother were in my place, you wouldn’t want the same thing for them—and neither for yourself.
I am a woman, not your stereotype. Do not put me in a box of adjectives nor within the limits of standards. Do not put labels on me because I am different—we all are. I am who I am.

I am just a woman—a proud one, at that.


4 Step Guide to Letting Go Of The Past - Leo Babauta

We’re constantly struggling with the past, in so many ways:
·         Mistakes we’ve made that we regret or that make us feel bad about ourselves
·         Anger about something someone did to us
·         Frustration about how things have progressed up until now
·         A wish that things turned out differently
·         Stories about what happened that make us sad, depressed, angry, hurt
·         An argument that we had that keeps spinning around in our heads
·         Something someone just did (a minute ago) that we’re still stuck on
What if we could just let go of things have have happened, and be present with the unfolding moment instead?
What if we could let the past remain in the past, and unburden ourselves?
What is we could see that our holding onto the past is actually hurting us right now … and look at letting go as a loving act of not hurting ourselves anymore?

It can be done, though it isn’t always easy. Here’s the practice I recommend, in four steps.

Step 1: See the Story That’s Hurting You

In the present moment, you have some kind of pain or difficulty: anger, frustration, disappointment, regret, sadness, hurt.
Notice this difficulty, and see that it’s all caused by whatever story you have in your head about what happened (either recently or in the more distant past). You might insist that the difficulty or pain is caused by what happened (not by the story in your head), but what happened isn’t happening right now. It’s gone. The pain is still happening right now, and it’s caused by whatever story you have about the situation.
Note that “story” doesn’t mean “false story.” It also doesn’t mean “true story.” The word “story” in this context doesn’t imply good or bad, false or true, or any other kind of judgment. It’s simply a process that’s happening inside your head:
·         You’re remembering what happened.
·         You have a perspective about what happened, a judgment, a way of seeing it that has you as the injured party.
·         This causes an emotion in you.
So just notice what story you have, without judgment of the story or of yourself. It’s natural to have a story, but just see that it’s there. And see that it’s causing you difficulty, frustration or pain.

Step 2: Stay with the Physical Feeling

Next, you want to turn from the story in your head … to the feeling that’s in your body. This is the physical feeling: it could be tightness in your chest, a hollowness, a shooting pain, an energy that radiates in all directions from your solar plexus, an ache in your heart, or many more variations.
The practice is to turn and face this physical feeling, dropping your attention out of the story your head and into your body.
Stay and face this feeling with courage — we usually try to avoid the feeling.
Stay and explore it with curiosity: what does it feel like? Where is it located? Does it change?
If this becomes unbearable, do it in small doses, in a way that feels manageable for you. It can get intense if the feelings have been intense.
But for most feelings, we see that it is not the end of the world, that we can bear it. In fact, it’s just a bit of unpleasantness, not all-consuming or anything to panic about.
Stay with it and be gentle, friendly, welcoming. Embrace the feeling like you would a good friend. You’re becoming comfortable with discomfort, and it is the path of bravery.

Step 3: Breathe Out, Letting Go

Breathe in your difficulty, and breathe out compassion.
It’s a Tibetan Buddhist practice called Tonglen: breathe in whatever difficult feeling you’re feeling, and breathe out the feeling of relief from that difficulty.
You breathe in not only your own pain, but the pain of others.
For example:
·         If you’re feeling frustration, breathe in all the frustration of the world … then breathe out peace.
·         If you’re feeling sadness, breathe in all the sadness of the world … then breathe out happiness.
·         If you’re feeling regret, breathe in all the regret of the world … then breathe out joy and gratitude.
Do this for a minute or so, imagining all the frustration of those around you coming in with each breath, and then a feeling of peace radiating out to all of those who are frustrated as you breathe out.
You can practice this every day, and it is amazing. Instead of running from your difficult feeling, you’re embracing it, letting yourself absorb it. And you’re doing it for others as well, which gets us out of a self-centered mode and into an other-focused mode.
As you do this, you’re starting to let go of your pain or difficulty.

Step 4: Turn with Gratitude Toward the Present

As you feel that you’ve let go, instead of getting caught up in your story again, turn and see what’s right here, right now.
What do you see?
Can you appreciate all or some of it? Can you be grateful for something in front of you right now?
Why is this step important? Because when we’re stuck on something that happened in the past, we’re not paying attention to right now. We’re not appreciating the moment in front of us. We can’t — our minds are filled up with the past.
So when we start to let go of the past, we have emptied our cups and allowed them to be filled up with the present.
We should then turn to the present and find gratitude for what’s here, instead of worrying about what isn’t.
As we do that, we’ve transformed our struggle into a moment of joy.


Blondies BootCamp! Leg Day!

Hey Hey Heyyy!

Long time no blog! Life updates.. well a few of many: still training like a mini beast, twice a day. New morning gym (it’s 24 hours – Yassss) I am all booked in for Bodypower expo! I’ll be there on the Sunday! If you see me, make sure you come and say hi!!

I’ve also taken on 4 trial clients for Blondies Boot Camp, online coaching programme… here is an example of one of the leg days my girls and guy have been smashing through!

More updates soon to come, and some new recipes too!
Mucho Love! Blonde xox