Find Your Happy! The Storm!

It’s a reasonably sunny day and we decide to take a stroll down the street, at the end of the street an overgrown shabby tree has fallen and there appears to be no way around… as we stare at this tree looking for options the weather starts to turn & before we know it we’re attempting to hide under the branches of this tree to shield ourselves from a mammoth storm.
The storm appears never ending and until it stops, we can’t even begin to think about how we are going to overcome the obstacle that is the shabby old tree.

The walk – defines our standard journey through life
The tree – defines our obstacles (one of many)
The storm – defines our fear

See if we could pluck up the courage to stand up and keep going through the storm, we would find a quicker route around that obstacle…

Something similar happened to me recently. I was dancing through life blissfully unaware of my surroundings and I would keep bumping into these little obstacles.. that’s general day to day wear. Then a storm started to brew and a large obstacle was thrown in front of me.
If I was still thinking the way I was a month ago, I would say it was blown on top of me. I felt trapped.
In my mind, the storm was defeating me and I was shivering under the branches of the broken down tree. I felt broken.
This continued for around 8 weeks, although 4 I was really down in the storm drains.
When I look back on it now, I am in no way being dramatic when I say I am damn proud of myself for surviving the wars playing out in my mind.

I sought help from family, I messaged my mum 10,000 times a day, I bent my friends ear off with my woes forgetting to ask them about their day, I googled tactics to ‘get over it’, and I sought help from doctors when I began to lose so much weight I was unrecognisable.
Each one of those things helped me.. in some way or another. But what got me through?
A mental change in direction.
See when you reach that sort of low, eventually you run out of fear - I ran out of fear…

I cried until the tears dried out, scrambled through the muddy puddles and crawled into a walk in the opposite direction of my fear.

The further I walked the less it rained… and I began to believe “just a few more rainy days and the sun will appear”

Eventually the rain stopped…. A week or so after that the clouds began to separate and rays of sunshine eventually shone through.

We can’t avoid bad weather, we can’t avoid natural disasters or even wars in our mind.
But we can fight through them.
Step by Step
Day by Day

& you will be so thankful you did.

~ Blonde xox


Find Your Happy - Values!

1. Acceptance: to be open to and accepting of myself, others, life etc
2. Adventure: to be adventurous; to actively seek, create, or explore novel or stimulating
3. Assertiveness: to respectfully stand up for my rights and request what I want
4. Authenticity: to be authentic, genuine, real; to be true to myself
5. Beauty: to appreciate, create, nurture or cultivate beauty in myself, others, the
environment etc
6. Caring: to be caring towards myself, others, the environment etc
7. Challenge: to keep challenging myself to grow, learn, improve
8. Compassion: to act with kindness towards those who are suffering
9. Connection: to engage fully in whatever I am doing, and be fully present with others
10. Contribution: to contribute, help, assist, or make a positive difference to myself or
11. Conformity: to be respectful and obedient of rules and obligations
12. Cooperation: to be cooperative and collaborative with others
13. Courage: to be courageous or brave; to persist in the face of fear, threat, or difficulty
14. Creativity: to be creative or innovative
15. Curiosity: to be curious, open-minded and interested; to explore and discover
16. Encouragement: to encourage and reward behaviour that I value in myself or others
17. Equality: to treat others as equal to myself, and vice-versa
18. Excitement: to seek, create and engage in activities that are exciting, stimulating or
19. Fairness: to be fair to myself or others
20. Fitness: to maintain or improve my fitness; to look after my physical and mental
health and wellbeing
21. Flexibility: to adjust and adapt readily to changing circumstances
22. Freedom: to live freely; to choose how I live and behave, or help others do likewise
23. Friendliness: to be friendly, companionable, or agreeable towards others
24. Forgiveness: to be forgiving towards myself or others
25. Fun: to be fun-loving; to seek, create, and engage in fun-filled activities
26. Generosity: to be generous, sharing and giving, to myself or others
27. Gratitude: to be grateful for and appreciative of the positive aspects of myself, others
and life
28. Honesty: to be honest, truthful, and sincere with myself and others
29. Humour: to see and appreciate the humorous side of life
30. Humility: to be humble or modest; to let my achievements speak for themselves
31. Industry: to be industrious, hard-working, dedicated
32. Independence: to be self-supportive, and choose my own way of doing things
33. Intimacy: to open up, reveal, and share myself -- emotionally or physically – in my
close personal relationships
34. Justice: to uphold justice and fairness
35. Kindness: to be kind, compassionate, considerate, nurturing or caring towards myself
or others
36. Love: to act lovingly or affectionately towards myself or others
37. Mindfulness: to be conscious of, open to, and curious about my here-and-now
38. Order: to be orderly and organized
39. Open-mindedness: to think things through, see things from other’s points of view, and
weigh evidence fairly.
40. Patience: to wait calmly for what I want
41. Persistence: to continue resolutely, despite problems or difficulties.
42. Pleasure: to create and give pleasure to myself or others
43. Power: to strongly influence or wield authority over others, e.g. taking charge,
leading, organizing
44. Reciprocity: to build relationships in which there is a fair balance of giving and taking
45. Respect: to be respectful towards myself or others; to be polite, considerate and show
positive regard
46. Responsibility: to be responsible and accountable for my actions
47. Romance: to be romantic; to display and express love or strong affection
48. Safety: to secure, protect, or ensure safety of myself or others
49. Self-awareness: to be aware of my own thoughts, feelings and actions
50. Self-care: to look after my health and wellbeing, and get my needs met
51. Self-development: to keep growing, advancing or improving in knowledge, skills,
character, or life experience.
52. Self-control: to act in accordance with my own ideals
53. Sensuality: to create, explore and enjoy experiences that stimulate the five senses
54. Sexuality: to explore or express my sexuality
55. Spirituality: to connect with things bigger than myself
56. Skilfulness: to continually practice and improve my skills, and apply myself fully
when using them
57. Supportiveness: to be supportive, helpful, encouraging, and available to myself or
58. Trust: to be trustworthy; to be loyal, faithful, sincere, and reliable

Source: www.actmindfully.com.au            www.thehappinesstrap.com