Fall in love yourself she
says, like it’s easy… 90% of us are our own worst critic, we see flaw’s in
ourselves that are blind to the eyes of others.. And when our confidence has
been knocked dramatically – its human nature to believe our flaws are more visual,
much more intense than they actually are.
I believe self-confidence
is a mind-set. The mind-set that you do not require any approvals from anyone
other yourself, acceptance of your flaws and also accepting self-compliments of
the many qualities you undoubtedly have.
You are who you think you
are:
I’d been nagging my
boyfriend for the last 6 months to spend more time with me and less time on his
PlayStation. This caused arguments, I appeared controlling, needy – because I appeared to constantly be demanding his time and attention, and I started believing I am how I am acting – a needy nag. This brings me down, makes me
feel depressed about myself, pushing him further away and to wanting to spend
more time on his PlayStation than with me. And can I blame him? When I don’t
even like the person I am behaving like?
The changing point in the
vicious cycle above is realizing the way I was acting was not me - merely a lack of self-love and insecurities
rearing their ugly heads due to a series of events that have happened in my life.
Truth is, and I know deep down is that I am a very independent woman. I am more
than happy to spend time doing my own thing; I’ve never really needed a big
group around me or the approval of others.
The answer to the
situation above was to step back, spend some time alone, bring out my inner
goddess and BE the person I want to be, the person I am happy being –
independent, not in requirement of anyone’s attention.
I wrote a list of things I
have achieved in the last 10 years, passing my driver’s test. Holding a stable
job in a growing industry, falling in love with fitness, growing my social
media, helping complete strangers reach their fitness goals, investing in
studies to further help people and gain a qualification in a field I love.
I have a roof over my
head, a car that is my own, I put food in my stomach and I pay all my bills on
time every month without fail.
I wrote a list of
qualities:
I am kind, generous, open minded, I don’t often par-take in gossip
and I feel guilty when I do. So I have a conscious. I am hard working, I
listen, I adapt and I am always open to learn. I love others with everything I
have...
– so why shouldn’t I love myself too?
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