5 Anxiety Busters!!

Hey Hey beautiful people!! I hope you're all having a relaxed Saturday! It's cold, wet and rainy here where I am in the UK so I thought I would take a time out of doing my chores and study to talk to you all about five different things I try to focus on when I'm having a day when my anxiety is at it's peak.
  1. Belly Breathing! Sit up straight, close your eyes with one hand on your chest bone and one hand on your tummy. Keep your shoulders relaxed. Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose feeling your tummy expand and your chest rise. Then slowly exhale through mouth with your lips slightly pursed as so to make a kind of whooshing sound. Repeat this until the immediate anxiety to panic attack weakens. 
  2. Focus on being present and in the moment. Listen for the things you can hear around you, how the air feels on your skin, what you can smell. Sometimes when I'm having an anxiety attack I call my mum, she'll ask me to describe 10 things I can see, something I can smell... it really does work because it distracts me from the anxiety and brings me back to a grounded situation. 
  3. Pay attention to your thoughts and take the time to acknowledge them - all of them. Often when we're panicked and in the midst of anxiety our thoughts become distorted and twice as negative as they need to be. Take the time to right down the emotions, challenge and rationalise the situation. Ask yourself, is this concern really, evidentally, true? 100% true? Is there another interpretation of the situation? What is the best possible outcome? 
  4. Exercise. I hate going to the gym when I feel anxious, like its literally the last thing I want to do but when it's raining out and I can't get outside for a walk - sticking myself on the treadmill for an hour for a fast paced walk and some inspirational youtube videos' has been one of my personal saviours for anxiety. Plus, we all like an explosion of happy endorphins right? 
  5. Pet therapy... granted, this wont work for everyone - pet allergies and so on, but for those of you who have a pet interacting with them is known to release oxytocin, a brain chemical that promotes a positive mood. I'm really lucky to have shadow in my life - she's my housemates cat, I've basically adopted her as my own and she can bring the love out of me on my most negative days. 


Hello, Sassy Pants! Increasing Self-Esteem!

So in yesterday’s post I talked a bit about my issues with Low self-esteem and how I am facing it.

In today’s post I am going to list a few more different things that we can all do to boost our Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence and Inner net-worth!

Mastering new skills – find something that you enjoy, study it, learn it and own it! By becoming skilled in an area that interests you, you will increase your sense of competency!

Evening lists! You know me I have a list for everything, but this one is extra special – it’s a list of congratulations, to myself for my daily accomplishments! We all deserve a pat on the back for our daily wins, so give that to yourself!

Get clear with yourself on your values! Do a check list (oh look another list) of your life, go into all area’s and make sure you are aligned with your values.

Battle of the beliefs – everytime you catch yourself belittling yourself, or getting into a negative nancy mode – take a minute and question yourself – challenge the negative thoughts, tell them to sod off. Always best if you don’t do this one aloud.. unless you’re in a private space… aheh.

Let negative people go… I say this all the time, but my goodness it’s the one I struggle with the most. I hate letting people go, I mean you really have to push me to a point of no returns before I will walk out of your life. Yet it’s something I am learning to do, something I recommend – if someone’s actions, or lack of action in your life is causing you to doubt yourself, and feel crappy on a regular basis, you really have to do yourself a favour and show them the door. There are billions of people in this world, plenty of those people will surround us with love and positive vibes… so why do we waste our time on the ones adding no value?

Following on from this… I think I personally, and I’m sure some of you need to be working out what our boundaries are. Then respecting ourselves to make those boundaries ‘No Negotiables’ in our lives. By living without boundaries, we end up accidentally allowing people to take advantage of us, manipulate us, control us. Being confident means maintaining firm, solid boundaries.

Take care of yourself and your appearance. It’s not false that when you look your best, you feel your best, when you feel your best, you do your best!
Sassy pants on – you got this!



Anxiety & Low Self Esteem

If you’ve been following closely, on my social media this year you will have seen me recently open up a little bit more about my anxiety over the last 6 months’.

I’ve had 3 major episodes now, and the only way to describe it is SHEER PANIC about literally every single decision and action I take. Thinking way too far ahead and then scaring myself with the consequences. Either eating everything in sight or not being able to stomach a full meal. Feeling sick, shakey and drained from all of the above mentioned things.

I say I’ve been suffering on and off for 6 month’s – it’s been more active in the last 6 month’s but I’d really take it right back to March 2017 as the first time I experienced these kinds of overwhelming episodes of anxiety. Originally I went to the doctors, got put on medication to help manage it, came off the medication when I started to feel better and was lucky enough to not face any more episodes for about a year.

Coming off citalopram was a pretty horrid experience for me, I suffered all the withdrawals from sweats, to dizziness to vomiting. So this year when my anxiety came back to me with a bang I decided I didn’t want to go back on medication and so I had to really get to the bottom of where it’s coming from, what is triggering it and so on.

I kinda figured, as I work my way through this journey and learn more about myself, my mental life blocks and how to overcome them, I thought maybe I could help some of you with my findings, my healthy mind goals going forward and if you’re going through similar issues in life, we can battle these demons together.

So today… imma talk about one of my main trigger points for anxiety: LOW SELF ESTEEM.

Self-esteem reflects our own, personal emotional evaluations of our own worth. It’s the ultimate mean girl or boss babe of our inner wisdom. It encompasses beliefs about us, and it controls a lot of our emotional states. When our self-esteem is high we may feel triumph and pride. When our self-esteem is bruised, we’re likely to feel despair and shame.

Let me tell you something, it’s really hard to feel grateful for the world we live in when we don’t feel like we deserve the blessings in our life. For that reason alone, we need to be working on our self-esteem game okay, that baby gotta be strong.

Here are a few signs that you may be suffering with low self-esteem, feelings I know I’ve encountered lately, and how I am trying to battle them:

You blame yourself, for everything! It’s not that other persons fault for using you; it’s your fault because you let them use you right? Wrong… there’s taking responsibility for your life and there’s ridiculing yourself every time someone fucks you over. Some people are just selfish assholes; it’s a reflection on them, not you.

You’re obsessed with being perfect – this is one of the most destructive aspects of low self-esteem because it leads you to being in a constant state of failure, it doesn’t matter how much good you achieved that day, how impressive your day was, what will stick in your mind constantly, is what you didn’t achieve that day, you give yourself 3 goals, you hit 2.5 – for most people that’s a pretty damn good day don’t you think? Well when you have low self-esteem, that’s a failure.

Healthy mind goal:  Learn to set realistic expectations for yourself and consciously assess goals when setting them, how manageable are they really? Recognise there is a huge difference between failing something that you do and failing as a person.

Look for the bigger picture, take pride in the end product and stop nit-picking at yourself.

You think you bring nothing to the table - aka, doubting your ability but from a deep rooted sense of worthlessness and believing that you aren’t as valuable as bob down the street that owns his table and has painted it with unicorns and rainbows.

Healthy mind goal: Understand that worth is not defined upon us by anyone other than ourselves. Accept we all come with our own little unique talents and gifts, take pride in them and believe we are worthy people. It’s fab to think highly of others and learn from their talents and ways of life but hunni, we gotta stop comparing ourselves and irrationally thinking someone else’s qualities makes them more valuable.

 Repeat after me: “I will admire another for their good qualities, but not at the expense of my own.”

We’re people pleasers – (this is a classic me section right here) – we always feel like we have to please others, so that they like, love or respect us more. 80% of the time this results in us being used, and feeling the complete opposite of loved and respected. So it’s entirely counterproductive, exhausting and emotionally distressing.

Healthy mind goal: Learn how to say no… your worth doesn’t depend on the approval of others – if someone is in your life for the right reasons it’s for who you are and not what you can do for them. Be a little more selfish, and don’t feel guilty for it. Or at least think about your own needs – there are times when to bend over backwards to make someone happy and there are times when to do that for your damn self. Set limits on others – eventually, all the yes I will do this and that for you and give up the only spare time I have this week to make you happy when I’ve not had any time to myself omg this even sounds exhausting – is going to lead you into resenting the person you are doing it for. You’ll begin to think you’re mugging yourself off, this leads to anger and hurt and confusion and thinking ‘why am I not good enough’ and OH MY GOD CAN YOU NOT SEE THE CYCLE!! Just chillax, do things for people when you can because you’re an epic person, but give yourself limits to how far you will go, and honour them. Boundaries baby! Boundaries!

You’re irrationally fearful and anxious (Hey Blonde! That you!) – over time I have found myself on several occasions now believing that I am powerless to change, and that it’s normal to be riddled by fear which then creates excuses why I shouldn’t every time I am trying to take on new changes in my life.

Healthy mind goals: Work out and discriminate genuine fears from unfounded ones. Stop holding yourself back based on belief. For example that awesome promotion you’ve been too afraid to go for because you believe Boris is more suited to the role because he is more popular. Except Boris has the same level of degree as you, and you have been doing the same job as Boris for the last 3 years, the job isn’t a popularity contest and so there is zero evidence Boris is any better suited to the role at all….Build up your confidence by facing your fears. Draw a fear pyramid, biggest fear at the top, smallest at the bottom – and start working your cute butt to the top of that pyramid. Every time you face a fear you boost your belief in yourself and confidence as you go.

As always, I’m so grateful to everyone who takes the time to read this, and I’m looking forward to taking on this chapter of my life hopefully helping a few of you on the way.
All my love,

Blondie xox



Rest & Recovery 101: Vie Epsom Bath Salts

So... as I venture into the winter seasons... I am loving two things - being back under the barbell and long hot bubble baths! 
These two became intertwined when I recently got gifted a bag of Vie Epsom Foot & Bath Salts - #MuscleRecovery !! 
Stress and intense exercise depletes the muscle of magnesium - this makes you more vulnerable to muscle cramps and body aches after a long workout. 
Long hot soaks in Epsom bath salts after training can help to prevent inflammation in your joints and muscles. 
While increasing your magnesium levels, Epsom Salt also delivers sulphates which are extremely difficult to source through food but which readily absorb through the skin.

Medical research indicates sulphates are needed for the formation of brain tissue, joint proteins and the mucin proteins that line the walls of the digestive tract.
Sulphates also stimulate the pancreas to generate digestive enzymes and help to detoxify the body's residue of medicines and environmental contaminants.
For a foot soak, dissolve one cup in a foot bath and soak for 30 minutes or more. For a bath soak, dissolve 2-3 cups in a full bath tub and soak for 30 minutes or more. Temperature of the water should be approximately 39 degrees centigrade. Once finished, rinse with warm water and dry.
Vie Epsom Foot and Bath Salts cost £8.95 for 1.8kg from www.vie-healthcare.com


Life Lessons... 

Life is painful and messed up.
It gets complicated at the worst of times, and sometimes you have no idea where to go or what to do.
 Lots of times people just let themselves get lost, dropping into a wide open, huge abyss. But that's why we have to keep trying.
We have to push through all that hurts us, work past all our memories that are haunting us. Sometimes the things that hurt us are the things that make us strongest.
 A life without experience, in my opinion, is no life at all.
And that's why I tell everyone that, even when it hurts, never stop yourself from living.


7 Steps to Turn Your Self-Improvement Desires Into Reality - Leo BABAUTA

How many times have we told ourselves in complete earnestness, “I’m going to be more organized and productive from now on.”? Or that the diet starts tomorrow? Or that we’re going to make a real effort to exercise now?

Only to have that enthusiasm fizzle away, and all our best intentions come to nothing?
It’s the most common thing in the world (besides bacteria) — the honest and fervent desire for self-improvement, followed by inaction or giving in to temptations, followed by guilt or giving up. Bridget Jones captured it best, writing her constant resolutions into her diary. “Will definitely go to the gym this afternoon.” Only to be followed by a binge of pastries followed by drinking and smoking.
We’re all Bridget Jones. It happens to the best of us. It’s inertia at work, mixed with a bit of laziness as well as the very human trait of giving in to desires despite all the good intentions in the world.
So how do we beat inertia and temptations? Four basic ways, really:
  1. Get moving, a bit at a time. Inertia is beat only by movement. Once you get going, momentum builds up and inertia is no longer a factor. So the key is to get started, and you do that not by trying to go from 0 to 60 in 5 seconds, but by trying to go from 0 to 5mph in a day or two. That’s doable. It’s all about baby steps. Once you get going, you’re golden.
  2. Be accountable. Laziness, the second culprit, is beat by a bit of public pressure. We all get lazy from time to time (or, to be more honest, all the time), and there’s nothing wrong with that. But to beat laziness, we must apply a bit of pressure, in the form of accountability. There’s nothing wrong with a little pressure, as long is it’s not overdone. Pressure is a motivating thing, especially when it’s positive. Positive pressure includes encouragement from family or friends, an online forum, a help group in your neighborhood, or the readers of your blog.
  3. Ignore failures — giving in to temptation is OK. We will always give in to temptation. Plan for it, accept it, move on. There’s no need to beat yourself up.
  4. Motivate yourself. Most importantly, you want to really want it. It’s not enough to feel pressure to do something — you have to really desire it. I mean, really desire it, not just think it’s something you should do, or that you’ll be a better person for doing it. If pressure gives you the push toward your goal, motivation gives you the pull.
Given those strategies for beating the obstacles to making your desires become reality … how do we implement them? How do we go from theory to actual action steps? Easy. Seven simple steps, that you can do today. Really. Do them today.
1. Make a date. Right now. All the good intentions in the history of the universe mean nothing if you don’t actually get started. And the only way to get started is to take action, right now. Not tomorrow, not later today, not in an hour, not when you finish reading this article. Right now! Look at your calendar, and make an appointment to create your action plan, or to take the first action (“Go walking at 5:30 p.m. today in the park,” for example). What’s the first action you can take to make your desires a reality? Create a healthier meal plan for tomorrow? Create a place for everything you use at work, so your organizing system doesn’t fall apart in two day? Decide what that is and make an appointment for it, right now. Second part of this step: make that appointment the most important appointment on your schedule, more important than a doctor’s appointment or a meeting with your boss.
2. Set a small, achievable goal. Remember, inertia is a powerful force. If you haven’t been exercising for a couple years, it’s hard to get started. You’re used to the way things are, and even if you want to change, it’s difficult. So don’t start out trying to conquer the world. Just conquer something exceedingly small. It might sound wimpy to say, “I’m going to walk for 10 minutes” or “I’m going to do 10 pushups and 1 chinup”, but those are much more likely to beat inertia than, “I’m going to exercise for 45 minutes today.” Be realistic, and make it very very achievable. It’s the only way to beat inertia.
“Try not. Do or do not. There is no try.” – Yoda in The Empire Strikes Back
3. Commit thyself, big time. It’s this commitment that will keep you going after you overcome inertia. Sometimes we get filled up with enthusiasm, but then a few days later, that enthusiasm wanes and we submit to our old buddy laziness. Now, I’m not anti-laziness — just the opposite, I assure you — but we can’t let it stop us from making our dreams come true. So instead, make a commitment, publicly. State your small, achievable goal, and tell it to as many people as you can. Call or email friends and family, tell all your coworkers, join an online forum related to your goal and tell all of them. Put it on your blog. However you do it, make sure people are aware of your goal, and that there’s sufficient pressure to overcome laziness.
4. Baby steps, baby. Again, inertia is a very strong force. I’ve said it before, but this is a very important step here: the best way to change is through baby steps. One small step at a time. Don’t try to bite off too much. How is this different from the above step, setting a small and achievable goal? It’s the same concept, but extended beyond the initial goal. It’s taking things one little goal at a time, a bit at a time. For example, let’s say you want to run a marathon, but currently your running regimen consists of running to the bathroom during commercial breaks while you’re watching Lost. So do you go out and start a marathon training plan? Nope. You start by walking 10 minutes a day. Then, when that becomes a habit and too easy, walk 15 minutes. Then 20, then 30. Then jog a minute, walk a couple minutes, jog a minute, and so on, for those 30 minutes. Then jog 90 seconds, and so on, until you’re running for 30 minutes. Do these steps a week or two at a time, so that all of a sudden, you’re running for 45 minutes every other day … and you barely noticed the progression. That’s the way you get to a goal … small progressions that are barely noticeable. Not by killing yourself the first day out.
“Seventy percent of success in life is showing up.” – Woody Allen
5. Hold thyself accountable. You’ve committed yourself publicly … but it’s not enough to tell people your goal. You have to make it clear that they must hold you accountable to reporting to them your progress. Then report your progress to them regularly. Daily is better than weekly. Reporting to them makes sure that you will think twice about being lazy and forgoing your action plan.
6. Motivate yourself. We’ve already discussed accountability and commitment, which are ways to put positive pressure on yourself — a form of motivation. Those are great, but you also want other types of motivation. You want to find ways to make your progress feel great … either through rewards, or the positive way you feel about your progress, or the positive way you feel when others see how well you’re doing. Find a few different ways to motivate yourself — the more the better. Incorporate these into your plan. Tell people about them. Let them help push you along.
7. Just keep doing it, no matter what. You’ll encounter obstacles, and falter and fall. Just get up and keep going. You’ll face temptations and give in. That’s OK. Just keep going. You’ll make mistakes and get discouraged. No matter … just keep going. Learn from your mistakes, and … keep going. No matter what happens, keep going. If you’re taking baby steps, you’re holding yourself accountable, and you’re actually doing something, you’ll get there.
“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one” – Albert Einstein


50 Life lessons from an 80 year old man


Daily Personal Growth Practises

Practises for the mind:
Keep a reading habit.
Have a growth mindset.
Align your priorities with your goals and values.
Visualize success.
Measure your improvement.
Learn new skills.

Practises for the body:
Respect your body.
Exercise on the regular.
Eat mindfully.
Practice self-care.
Schedule regular desk breaks.
Mind your daily water intake.

Practises for the soul:
Practice daily mindfulness.
Practice mindful listening.
Practice gratitude.
Recite positive affirmations.
Develop a journaling habit.
Heal your negative talk.
Learn to forgive yourself and others.


Tips to stimulate personal growth

Know yourself – self knowledge is not just bout knowing your likes and dislikes, its about knowing who you really are as a person.

Surround yourself with beautiful people – We’re talking about inner beauty ofcourse. People who have a story to tell, gifts to share and lessons to teach.

Rid yourself of people who bring you down.

Three good things – each evening write down 3 good things that happened throughout your day, or 3 things you are thankful for.

Avoid comparing yourself to what you see on social media.

Write – public blogs or private journals, writing is a therapeutic outlet for your thoughts.
Meet new people – spending time with new people will broaden your horizons and open up different adventures and opportunities in your life.

De-clutter – we get emotionally attached to ‘stuff’. When you take the plunge to purge and rid yourself of all the clutter you’ve hoarded over a lifetime, you’ll feel lighter and more empowered!

Get in touch with nature – take time out of each day to get fresh air, walk through a pretty park or just watch the clouds.

Make someone’s day – whether it’s a stranger, a friend or your mum – do something to brighten someone’s day!


Tips for a productive morning!

The night before:
Plan ahead, set out clothes, prep breakfast and lunch, set up the coffee machine.
Relax for a good nights sleep and turn off screens an hour before bed.

The morning:
Don’t press snooze. Keep the alarm far aware so you have to stand up to turn it off.
Move your body, stretch, walk or do a quick workout – anything to get your blood circulating.


Planning A Productive September!

Select monthly goals – write down your biggest goals for the month.

Make a list of tasks for each goal – creating a plan of action for every monthly goal.

Schedule the tasks – take your list of tasks and separate them into weekly to do lists for the month.

Plan for your week – on Friday or Sunday, complete the weekly list of tasks and plan when you will accomplish every single listed item.

Reschedule – if there is anything that you didn’t have time to finish, add it to your to do list for the following week.




The 7 Step Happiness Makeover

“Future Focused”
Don’t dwell on your past, let your thoughts be consumed with possibilities rather than defeat and limitations. Each new day is a chance to better yourself. Don’t define yourself by who you once were.
“Feel all emotions”
It is easy to run away or distract yourself from negative emotions, but allowing yourself to feel and work through difficult times is the only way you will experience transformational growth.
“Set Boundaries”
Boundaries are put in place to protect yourself, not to control other people. Don’t create unnecessary drama in your life because you aren’t able to effectively set boundaries.
“Commit to healthier habits”
Drink more water. Stop eating when you’re full. Give your body movement and fresh air each day. Practice self-care and avoid burnout.
“Practice Gratitude”
Replace your usual complains with expressions of gratitude. Among all the things that are wrong, point out the things in your life that are right! You’ll be surprised how many you can find when you look.
“Cultivate Generosity”
Step outside of yourself and cultivate a spirit of generosity. Loving others through generous service not only deepens relationships but also makes you an overall happier person.
“Give yourself grace”
Stop being so hard on yourself. The key to experiencing growth and becoming the best version of yourself is to give grace to who you already are and love yourself along your journey.


Questioning A Negative Thought

Do I believe this thought?

Is it true or false?

What happens if it’s true? Or false?

Will I or someone else be hurt?

Where does this thought come from?

Is it mine or someone else’s?

What can I learn from this thought?

What do I need to know?

What is it trying to tell me?

Am I ready to heal/release this thought or does it still serve me?

Is my ego attached to it so I believe I need it?

What belief is attached to this thought?

How long have I had this belief?

Where does this belief come from?

Has this belief served its purpose?

Am I ready to heal/release this belief?

Can I let the thought and belief go?


10 Simple Gratitude Affirmations

“Thank you for this new day.”
“I am filled with happiness and gratitude”
“I am grateful for another chance to live my life”
“I am grateful to feel the air in my lungs and the beating of my heart”
“I am thankful for simply being alive”
“Thankfulness, appreciation and sincere gratitude are part of who I am”
“I am grateful for who I am for what I have”
“I invite gratitude into my heart”
“Today I will have an attitude of gratitude”
“Thank you for the blessings this day will bring”


Be Brave

Be brave. 

Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference. 

Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for your convenience, not the callers. 

Don't be afraid to go out on a limb. That's where the fruit is. 

Don't burn bridges. You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river. 

Don't forget, a person's greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated. 

Don't major in minor things. 

Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Helen Keller, Leonardo Da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein. Don't spread yourself too thin.

 Learn to say no politely and quickly. 

Don't use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved.

 Don't waste time grieving over past mistakes Learn from them and move on. 

Every person needs to have their moment in the sun, when they raise their arms in victory, knowing that on this day, at his hour, they were at their very best. 

Get your priorities straight. No one ever said on his death bed, 'Gee, if I'd only spent more time at the office'. 

Give people a second chance, but not a third. Judge your success by the degree that you're enjoying peace, health and love. 

Learn to listen. Opportunity sometimes knocks very softly. 

Leave everything a little better than you found it. 

Live your life as an exclamation, not an explanation. 

Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life and death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems. 

Never cut what can be untied. 

Never overestimate your power to change others. 

Never underestimate your power to change yourself.

 Remember that overnight success usually takes about fifteen years. 

Remember that winners do what losers don't want to do. 

Seek opportunity, not security. A boat in harbor is safe, but in time its bottom will rot out. 

Spend less time worrying who's right, more time deciding what's right. 

Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life. 

Success is getting what you want. Happiness is liking what you get. The importance of winning is not what we get from it, but what we become because of it. 

When facing a difficult task, act as though it's impossible to fail.

- Jackson Browne Jnr


Instruction for life:

Instruction for life: 

Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk. 

When you lose, don't lose the lesson. 

Follow the three R's: 
- Respect for self. 
- Respect for others. 
- Responsibility for all your actions. 

Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. 

Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.


The GirlPower Manifesto


10 Steps To Self Esteem

1 – Know yourself.
2 – Understand what makes you feel great.
3 – Recognise things that get you down.
4 – Set goals to achieve what you want.
5 – Develop trusting friendships that make you feel good.
6 – Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
7 – Stand up for your beliefs and values.
8 – Help someone else.
9 – Take responsibility for your own actions.
10 – Take good care of yourself.


You are enough

It doesn’t matter who you used to be;
What matters is who you decide to be today.
You are not your mistakes.
You are not your mishaps.
You are not your past.
You are not your wounds.
You can decide differently today and at every moment.
Remember that.
You are offered a new opportunity with each breath to think, choose, decide and act differently in a way that supports you in being all that you are capable of being.
You are not less than.
You are enough.


Ring Ring! The Universe is Calling!

What is for you, will never miss you.
The universe will send you signs and the longer you ignore them, the more heartache you will put yourself through.
Learn to appreciate the guidance the universe is sending your way and walk away from whatever no longer serves your purpose.


Small Steps To Happy

Push yourself to get up before the rest of the world. Start with 7am, then 6am, then 5.30am. Go to the nearest hill with a big coat and watch the sun rise.

Push yourself to fall asleep earlier. Start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. Wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.

Get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. Then sit and eat it and do nothing else.

Stretch. Start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes, roll your head, stretch your fingers. Stretch everything. (not literally men!)

Buy a 1L water bottle, start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in one day. Then try drinking two in a day.

Buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen, write down everything you do, dinner dates, assignments, coffee’s, what you need to do that day – no detail is too small.

Strip your bed of your sheets and empty your lingerie draw into the washing machine. Put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash it all fresh to dive into.

Organise your room. Fold all your clothes and pack for donations any that you don’t want. Clean your mirror, laptop, vacuum the floor and light a beautiful scented candle.

Have a luxurious shower with your favourite tunes playing, wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. Later your whole body in moisturiser and then slip into your comfiest pyjamas.

Push yourself to go for a walk. Take your headphones, walk by a lake. Smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised at how many smile back.

Become a better more mindful, pay it forward you. Let cars merge into your lane when driving, pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. Compliment people on their cute clothes and challenge yourself not to ridicule anyone for a whole day, then two, then a week. Walk with a straight posture, look people in the eye, ask people about their story.

Lie in the sunshine, daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. Open your eyes, take small steps to make it happen for you.


Whatever you are right now

Be confused, its where you begin to learn new things.
Be broken, it’s where you begin to heal.
Be frustrated, it’s where you start to make more authentic decisions.
Be sad, because if we are brave enough, we can hear our hearts wisdom through it.
Be whatever you are right now.
No more hiding.
You are worthy.


Life's Journey

The things you want are already yours. 

It’s not the result you should chase; your name is already on that. 

Chase the journey. 

The highs, the lows, and everything in between; embrace them. 

They’re all part of this beautiful process you were designed for. 

Trust each step.